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Article published on LinkedIn.com: May 24, 2023
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Has anyone ever inspired you to change your
life in a meaningful way that made you healthier, happier, or
more fulfilled?
If so, you have a good understanding of the difference
positive inspiration can make in a person's life.
Inspiration is powerful, but it's actually not so easy to
harness it to help you in your quest for success.
Knowing more about the issue will help you avoid needlessly
torpedoing people of good faith and will help you avoid being
singled out as disruptive.
If you want to be a positive influence who can inspire your
loved ones to become better versions of themselves, please
consider the following tips:
1.
Care:
if you can't show someone you really care, do you think you
can inspire them?
The answer is a resounding « No »
Show that you care, for example, with a simple
«
how are you today?
»
Without forgetting that small gestures of
kindness go a long way.
2.
Be enthusiastic:
reflect your
enthusiasm for the people you are in contact with every day,
and I am sure that your sincere smiles, your positive energy,
and your attention to them will be increased tenfold.
3.
Gain trust:
if someone you
know and love tells you a secret, it stays between you and
them. Trust takes a long time to develop, but it can vanish
overnight.
So don't get involved in workplace gossip or
unnecessary drama on social media. Keep your distance and
comment only to influence positively.
This way, people will find that they can interact with
you and will not hesitate to talk to you and even support you.
If
it's not positive, don't say it: it's easy to criticize
people, but that doesn't mean it's the right thing to do.
4.
Think it over:
how do
you react if someone insults your intelligence, makes fun of
your outfit, or criticizes your performance?
Whether the criticism is true or not, I bet you get angry. No
one likes to be criticized, so if you don't have anything
positive to say, don't.
5.
Value people:
little
compliments have a way of brightening up any day, no matter
what melancholy shadows may be hanging over your head. You
have surely noticed in the past, when you gave a small
compliment to someone, their face would light up.
6.
Hang in there:
It's easy to let the stresses of life shake our foundation of
inner strength as human beings, but if you want to inspire
those around you, learn to hold your own against the odds.
Stand firm if you want to show the
people around you that even the worst circumstances can be
overcome with positive thinking, continuous improvement, and a
never-desperate attitude.
7.
Admit your flaws:
while it's important not to flinch when life throws a
curveball at us, it's equally important to recognize the fact
that we are all human beings and therefore all of us are
inherently flawed.
We all have at least one obvious
weakness. So accept your flaws to humanize yourself, so that
people can understand you more deeply.
Show me a person who claims to be
beyond reproach, and I'll show you a liar.
8.
Do active listening:
Anyone can hear the words that others say, but few
people can actively listen and understand those words to fully
grasp their meaning.
Make eye contact if someone is talking
to you about a particular situation or problem, then following
the information received and analyzed, ask follow-up questions
to show them that you care about what he's going through.
9.
Be ambitious:
aim high and never give up if you want to inspire
people so they too can achieve whatever they set out to do.
10.
Provide constructive criticism:
first, constructive criticism should
only be given if requested. Also, if it isn't positive, don't
say it.
If you criticize someone for their
flaws without any rational input being communicated to them,
you're just going to upset them.
Provide constructive criticism.
11.
Treat everyone equally:
we are all equal human beings, regardless of gender, race,
religion, political affiliation, or any other factor.
Love and care for people without
regard to those irrelevant factors which have no influence on
the quality of a person.
Treat others as they wish to be
treated, regardless of their background to inspire trust.
12.
Walk confidently:
keep your head up and eyes forward so you can say;
« Hello » or « how are you? » to everyone you meet. Walk with
a friendly gait that reflects confidence.
13.
Keep Calm:
how people
react to insults or criticism speaks volumes about their
ability to inspire others.
If you respond to hate with more hate, how are you
better than the person who triggered the confrontation?
No matter how inappropriate or harsh an insult was,
it's best to stay calm, because getting upset, won't make you
feel better, and it certainly won't inspire the people around
you.
Ignore insults as if they didn't happen, and those who
witness your unwavering nature may be inspired to do the same.
If it is a serious insult, keep calm. There will always
be a good time to try to discuss it or bring in a referee to
put the situation into perspective.
14.
Share your inspirations:
what
are the books that have influenced you, the most?
What are the sources of inspiration that guide the most
important decisions of your life?
How did you become the happy, healthy, positive person
you are today?
Share the influences that shaped you, so others can
benefit too.
15.
Acknowledge the contributions of others:
no matter how great you are, you are only one person, so make
sure other people have contributed to your success or not,
before praising it.
Acknowledge contributions publicly, if
possible, to show people you're humble and thoughtful enough
to give credit where it's due.
16.
Keep your promises:
if you've
volunteered for a social cause or job or been invited to a
movie, you should keep your word, even if other factors
influence you not to keep your word.
It's easy to let go of our responsibilities when a
better opportunity presents itself, but it's an infallible way
to destroy the trust you've worked hard to get, so be wise to
keep your word no matter what.
17.
Stay true to yourself:
many of
us have a variety of Me’s « Moi » that emerge depending on the
social situation at home, work, and friends that all require a
different song and dance. This is what I call the « Moi »
experience of Miss Piggy, the Muppet character.
For example, setting up a different scenario for each
group of people you meet is very exhausting and definitely not
a good way to inspire people around.
Embrace your true « Moi. » People will understand where
you come from and will accept you more without you having to
develop scenarios of circumstances, without forgetting the
excuses you will have to make, when you are exposed.
18.
Explore other possibilities:
Anyone who thinks they have all the answers is kidding
themselves, so don't hesitate to question your beliefs
regularly. You always have to keep in mind that there is
always another side to a coin.
Talk to people who think differently from you to find
out what motivates them. Chances are you won't change your
mind if you truly believe something with confidence.
However, it is important to explore other possibilities
that could validate or invalidate your strategy.
This discussion should reinforce your point of view or
open your eyes to an angle that you have overlooked.
Additionally, you will also develop trust in people who
think differently than you, who otherwise might have been
afraid to approach you.
19.
Don't go overboard:
if you win an argument, there's no need to brag
about it. « I told you so » will make you look arrogant and
rightly discourage people from approaching you about important
situations.
20.
Leave people free to act:
Don't just give people step-by-step advice, but
rather give them the freedom to figure it out for themselves.
Nobody likes micromanagers!
If asked for help, provide a rough
instruction to get a person moving in the right direction, but
intentionally leave something to the imagination so they have
the freedom to fill in the blanks.
When a
person discovers that they are able to figure things out on
their own, they discover that they are more powerful than they
ever thought possible. She or he will understand where she or
he comes from and because of this, she or he will understand
you better.
Here we all need to remember
« Stay true to yourself: many of us have a variety of Me’s « Moi »
that emerge depending on the social situation at home, work,
and friends that all require a different song and dance. This
is what I call the « Moi » experience of Miss Piggy, the
Muppet character. »
Find out more about how to «
Facilitate positive
exchanges » with My Success Is
Your Success. The book through questions, quotes and
reflections provides the necessary elements to explore all
about motivation so to shape your success and help those
around you do the same. Remember that success is all about
team efforts!
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This book is the result of forty years
of experience acquired with local and international
organizations and companies and during consultancy,
change management, transition and marketing services.
This 404-page
personal development book was published by WebTech
Publishing and is available online in English, North
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About the Author
Decelles
Other publications:
ISO Pour Tous
– Le manuel
d’information ISO – Le guide de préparation ISO – La
gestion du changement en affaires – La gestion de
projet d’affaires – Le
changement POUR TOUS –
Change your future,
now! – Mon succès est votre succès.
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Germain Decelles, o.s.j.
WebTech Management et Publication Incorpored
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